Thursday, April 18, 2013


Do you like to shop alone or with a friend(s)?  I am generally a person who enjoys shopping by myself.  When alone, I can look at new lip gloss colors or try on 20 pairs of shoes without feeling like I am wasting someone else's time.  The only exception to this is if it is someone I consider a TRUE SHOPPING BUDDY.  My guidelines for granting this title depends on several factors:

1.  ENDURANCE-To shop with me you have to be willing to go and go and go...8 hours, 10 hours, now that is a shopping trip.  Also there is no time to be wasted over a long leisurely lunch, that is detracting from the purpose of our mission.  Yes we will eat but it will be quick and inexpensive (that extra $10.00 spent on a sandwich could be used towards treating yourself to something new).  Besides most of us don't need the extra carbs anyway.

2.  VISIONARY-I want my shopping buddy to be able to consider the entire will this simple navy dress look when paired with a statement necklace, cute clutch and new shoes?  Can she/he help you rationalize the purchase by quoting the latest style trends and colors and/or how it will be a foundation piece of your closet?

3.  FLEXIBILITY- This quality goes along with endurance.  No store should be unshopped (look, I just made up a new word).  We will venture into high end retailers like Saks and Neiman Marcus as well as lower end H & M and TopShop. does a shopper over 45 i.e. justify going into H & M or someone whose clothing budget is not unlimited go into a designer store?  You go to look, to feel the fabric, to see color combinations, new ways to tie the scarf you already have, etc etc.  

4.  HONESTY-This is a VERY VERY important attribute.  Please do not say something is ok when you know it is not.  I didn't say you cannot be tactful in your comments but if something does not flatter, then tell me and I promise to do the same.  As someone who loves fashion and shops a lot (reminder this is different than buying) I may need you to tell me I deserve to splurge because it is such a great choice or maybe the opposite that something better awaits at our next destination.

There you have it, my thoughts on the characteristics I covet in a shopping buddy.  I have to tell you these special people are few and far between.  If you think you might be "the one" and willing to head out with me sometime soon, I am always ready to go. 

1 comment:

  1. I, too, prefer to shop alone. I tend to get sidetracked and start looking for things for the other person to wear instead of shopping for myself. However, I think you describe a "true shopping buddy" perfectly!